Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Thoughts on the Ordain Women Movement

Ok there are six million other things I should be doing right now but I have been pondering on this subject for some time and I have to write it all out before my brain explodes!
My thoughts on Ordain Women and other feminist movements with in the church:

1.       I wish people would stop hurting one another! I don’t care if you agree or not can we all just please have a kind discourse about this issue! Telling others they are stupid for what they believe, calling them the anti-Christ, telling them to leave the church is only tearing us apart! Pres. Utchdorf said in his amazing talk last conference: “I plead with all who hear or read these words: Come, join with us. Come heed the call of the gentle Christ. Take up your cross and follow Him.12
We of all people should never tell people just to “go away”. We need all of our brothers and sisters to come join with us! (PS, read that whole talk, it’s amazing). When reading the scriptures I’ve noticed how amazing it is that Christ is ALWAYS telling us to come unto Him and that He will turn away none who want to come to Him! We need to follow his example and open our hearts to all despite differences in opinions! So please can we stop getting so angry at each other and name calling? If we take time to truly LISTEN to one another we will truly LEARN.

2.       Please, let’s validate each other’s feelings instead of sweeping them aside. This is for both sides. Women who feel they want the priesthood need to be understood, and we need to listen to what they have to say and why they feel that way. I feel like as I’ve tried to approach the subject with an open mind, I have learned tons! And I am actually so grateful for them because even if I don’t see eye to eye in everything, they are helping us think harder about equality, about the culture of the church and what may be wrong with it. I’m so happy women are now praying in conference! I’m ecstatic about the changes made in missions to allow women more leadership positions! If we actually listen to how these and all women feel, we can learn so much on how to better our world, culture, church, whatever. On the other hand, women who don’t feel the same need to be understood as well.   Women, like myself, who “feel equal” don’t need to be told that their feelings are invalid. To say that equality is not a feeling, makes all of us who do feel equal feel like we are being brushed aside into a box of “you’re not intelligent enough to know if you are equal or not so just be quiet.” Yeah. Ouch. Even if it is not intended that way, which I’m sure it’s not, that is how it feels. So on both sides, we need to put down our defensiveness and really listen and consider the other’s point of view rather than rolling your eyes or brushing thoughts and feelings aside.

3.       Should women be ordained or not? Well I still haven’t figured that one out! From my understanding of the gospel now, I feel like the answer is no. But God is much much bigger than me and understands so much more than I do. And I TRUST HIM. If tomorrow President Monson comes out and says “OKAY! Let’s ordain the women!” I will trust. Some may say “Oh that will never happen” but I’m sure Nephi probably never dreamed he’d be asked to kill a man in cold blood. If it never happens that women are ordained I will trust. I trust God. I know that his idea of equality may look different than ours. Because even though we think we are smart stuff sometimes our brains are finite and we can’t always understand everything he does. I know that the men he has called to be his prophets and apostles are not perfect but are called of him, and I trust that they are praying, pondering and seeking revelation on the topic. I trust God to speak through them. I trust that they are not chauvinist, but are men of God seeking to put aside any cultural beliefs and focus on doctrine. If women are to be ordained, it will happen. If not, it won’t. And I trust that.


4.       Let’s keep the discussion going. Let’s not stomp out questioning and doubt by saying it is apostasy. I have learned more about my role as a woman, my Heavenly Mother, the priesthood, and God Himself as I’ve pondered and prayed about these questions and discussions. I am ever so grateful for them. If we dismiss every different-than-the-mainstream-Mormon idea that comes along we are missing so many learning opportunities. Our whole religion started from a question. Please, let’s keep asking questions, keep thinking deeply, keep our hearts and minds open to be led by the spirit, and most of all keep loving one another and being kind despite our differences in beliefs! 

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